Between Me and You Bridal – Sustainable Wedding Gowns

Who knows where their wedding gowns were made? How about where the materials are from? How about what’s going to happen to their dress after their big day?

I am a part of several women entrepreneur groups on Facebook and was introduced to a woman named Kayla Cummings. When we got chatting, I learned that she is the co-owner of Between Me and You Bridal, an Australian based, sustainable wedding dress label. I am a huge supporter of all things sustainable so I wanted to learn more about what they do at Between Me and You Bridal! 

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Kayla says, “My sister, Meaghan, and I have always loved making elegant wedding gowns, but hated the tons of waste and pollution associated with a dress that’s only worn once. So we made the decision instead of using polyester and synthetic materials, we would only use natural and recycled materials for our gowns.” 

© EastWest Design | www.design-eastwest.com

To be honest, I had never really thought about the waste that goes into creating a wedding gown. Although several gowns are resold, they eventually will end up in a landfill somewhere. I love that Kayla and Meaghan have followed their passion of dress making and found a way to make it better for the earth. 

On the 22nd of July they will be launching their first sustainable wedding dress collection – consisting of 6 gowns. They have sourced certified organic cotton lace from Germany, natural materials such as hemp, tencel, silk, bamboo and linen blends and even recycled materials produced from PET bottles. They source their materials and accessories from all over the world – Australia, New Zealand, America, Germany and Asia. 

Another thing that I love about Between Me and You Bridal is that all their gowns are made to order. Kayla says, “All of our dresses are sewn in house on the Sunshine Coast (Australia) with organic cotton thread and finished off with recycled zippers that have been made from recycled post-consumer polyester/yarn waste.” Even their packaging and tags remain plastic-free!

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A little bit more about their process: All their gowns are sold online and available through their website. A finished gown takes 12 to 24 weeks to complete. 

At Between Me and You Bridal, they use Eco-friendly and Earth-conscious materials — for a happy bride and a better future, one wedding gown at a time.

You can check out their wedding gowns, amazing photographs, and incredible videos on their Facebook page at: https://www.facebook.com/betweenmeandyoubridal/. You can also find them online on their launch day and thereafter at: https://www.betweenmeandyoubridal.com

I am so glad to have met and talked with Kayla from Between Me and You Bridal! I am so excited to see this sister duo launch their incredibly beautiful and sustainable bridal collection on July 22nd! Thank you for allowing me to feature you on Mary Taylor Weddings – the blog! We can’t wait to hear how the launch goes.

Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3


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My First Podcast: How We Met, What My Mom Thought, & My Top Tips

Welcome brides and grooms!

I am so excited to finally be releasing my first podcast! I’ve had this idea for such a long time and kind of put it off to get everything else up and going. I started this podcast to help brides and grooms to plan their wedding. Along the way, we will talk with wedding professionals and brides to hear their recommendations, tips, and funny stories. 

This first podcast is a little bit about me – more in depth than what I shared before. I talk about how my fiancé (Robbie) and I met, my mom’s impression of Robbie, my grandpa’s thoughts, how Robbie proposed, and a little bit about what life looks like now. I’ll also give my top tips for wedding planning along with what you can look forward to in the future from Mary Taylor Weddings – the podcast.

Go to Facebook and let me know who you want to see featured on the Podcast! 

Groups/links that I mentioned on the Podcast:

  1. Mary Taylor Weddings Facebook Page
  2. My Etsy Shop
  3. Weddings, Wine, & DIY Free Facebook Group
  4. Mary Taylor’s Wedding Deals
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How To Create This Look: Alter Curtains & Greenery

You know those amazing Pinterest pictures that you see and think, “I want to create that too! It can’t be that difficult!” And then, you have to spend time not only figuring out how the heck you’ll do it but then need to find the best deals on those items to make it worth it? Let me help with that.

First, don’t forget to go like Mary Taylor Weddings on Facebook and join our deals group here. If you’re after more Pinterest ideas, you can follow me here.

For our first “create this look” I am starting with something that an actual bride reached out to me to help her create. I’d probably get regular curtains like the ones below and then just make sure you measure how long they need to be based on your gazebo/alter. Then, buy rope and greenery. Add flowers for an extra touch!

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Curtains: https://amzn.to/2Kk0nFh or https://amzn.to/2Rg5gzG

Greenery: https://amzn.to/2N4IEnF, https://amzn.to/2WfUGtH,

Rope:  https://amzn.to/2XluPVz

Flowers: https://amzn.to/2WfUAlP, https://amzn.to/2WMweUK,

eFavormart: Remember to use code MaryTaylorWeddings at checkout for 15% off

Curtains: https://www.efavormart.com/collections/curtains?aff=91

Greenery: https://www.efavormart.com/collections/ivy-garlands?aff=91

Flowers: https://www.efavormart.com/collections/artificial-flowers-plants?aff=91


Curtains: http://s.click.aliexpress.com/e/c7uDZsac

Greenery: http://s.click.aliexpress.com/e/WddiuUg

Rope: http://s.click.aliexpress.com/e/caZ3nAaM

Flowers: http://s.click.aliexpress.com/e/cLUenSjA, http://s.click.aliexpress.com/e/UTSJqz2, http://s.click.aliexpress.com/e/b3Ef9apw

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I hope this helped you learn how to make a new decoration for your alter or maybe even just fine some new floral arrangements! If you have more ideas of what you want to see as a “create this look” head on over to my Facebook page and leave me a comment on this post! If you have created something else that you want featured, let’s chat! I would love to see what my readers have made!

Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3

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Bouquet & Garter Toss: Pros, Cons, & Alternatives

I did a poll in Weddings, Wine & DIY to see what my next blog topic should be (because let’s be honest, I could write about a million things when it comes to planning a wedding)! You guys chose bouquet and garter toss!

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First, let’s talk about where the garter toss originated from. If you don’t know this already, definitely keep reading because it’s really interesting (and weird AF). Tossing the garter is an old time tradition. Brides and grooms used to have show proof that they had consummated their marriage. Friends and family members would join the couple in their room to witness this and would then need to leave the room with the “proof” aka the garter. Yup, you read that correctly! And, it gets better (or should I say worse). Having items of clothing from the bride and groom was considered lucky so while the couple was consummating their marriage, the eager onlookers would try to grab their clothing for good luck. Often times the bride (nor the groom) liked people trying to grab at them (shocker) which is why the tradition changed to tossing the garter so no one else would need to obtain it themselves. It’s said that in other cultures, people race/compete for the garter instead.

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Now that you know the history, here’s some pros, cons, and other ideas!

  1. The biggest pro is that it’s tradition (well in some sense at least). If you still want to have a garter or bouquet toss, no problem! I’d first recommend having an extra of each so that you can keep your actual bouquet and garter for your own memories.
  2. The biggest con is that it can make single people feel left out (especially if most of the people at your wedding will be married). To keep with the idea of tradition but not make anyone feel bad, you could hand your bouquet to the couple that has been together the longest.
  3. Another con to the garter toss (and garter removal) is that it’s just awkward. No offense but no one REALLY wants to see your man under your dress grabbing at your lingerie with his teeth – especially your parents and grandparents. While it can be funny, it also makes several people uncomfortable. With that said, you do you.
  4. Another way to go about it is to still have a garter but just have your husband remove it in the privacy of your own room after the wedding. If you still wanted to do the toss with it, have him remove it privately in another room and then come back to the reception to toss it.

So, what can you do instead to fill the time?

  1. An anniversary dance for your parents and grandparents
  2. Shoe game
  3. If you still want to do the bouquet toss or hand out your bouquet but want to skip the garter toss, toss something else (like a football, stuffed animal, etc). You could also pretend to go down to get the garter but pull something else out (large granny panties, a doll, something else funny, etc).
  4. Girls only and guys only choreographed dances with your bridesmaids and groomsmen
  5. Split the bouquet (or have another one made to split) to give a part of it to each of the important women in your life. Some people also make a breakaway bouquet to toss.
  6. Dance with your grandparents
  7. The kissing game
  8. Just skip it and don’t replace it with anything else – there are so many people to talk to and songs to be danced to. There is no need to get caught up in a ton of “extras” if you don’t want


I hope this helped you to think about the pros and cons of all the options! Remember, this is YOUR wedding day so make sure to do what feels best for you and your partner. 

Want to learn more about wedding planning and find great deals? Don’t forget to like me on Facebook and join me in my group for wedding shopping fun and great deals!

Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3


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Tips For The Bride

Do you ever see ideas that you think, “I wish I would have thought about that before!” I’ve gathered a list of tips from actual brides who have already said “I do.” These will help you to prepare for the best day of your life!

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💍Don’t wear a bra or anything tight the morning of your wedding day so you don’t have marks/lines on your skin

💍Tell your HMUA you need to be done at least a half hour before you actually do, as many will run late (this depends on the artist but I have personally heard so many “horror” stories)

💍Hydrate the night before your wedding

💍Pack snacks in your bridal bag so you never get hungry – Don’t forget to eat throughout the day

💍Wear a shirt that buttons or zips while getting your hair and make up done – something you don’t have to pull over your head

💍Make sure you don’t have a hair tie around your wrist

💍Number all your invites/rsvp so that if guests forget to include their name, you have a record of who sent back their rsvp

💍To pee: straddle the toilet, buy a bridal buddy, or get a SheWee

💍Don’t forget to try sitting in your wedding dress before you have the alterations completed

💍Do a first look with your parents

💍Don’t forget to sit at your head table and just watch your guests for a moment – absorb the moment!

💍Make an emergency kit for the day of! Don’t know what to include? My check list has a separate list just for the day of: Checklist here.

💍Create a “don’t call the bride” list of all your contacts so you don’t have to be interrupted on your wedding day. Find that in our list of questions to ask wedding vendors.

💍Have some one-on-one time with your husband and have a private cocktail hour (or 20 minutes) in a separate room from your guests

💍Instead of throwing your bouquet, hand it to the couple that has been married the longest

💍Don’t rush into choosing your wedding party – things change quickly especially when you’re planning a wedding!

💍Create a separate email for all your wedding related inquiries – make sure your fiancé has access to it as well!

💍Make sure your invites/save the dates/rsvp cards/etc. all match and print extras for your keepsake and for your photographer to capture on your wedding day

I hope this helped you to think of some ideas that you hadn’t thought of before! Want more tips and tricks? Like me on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/marytaylorweddingplanning.

Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3

© Jinal Govind Photography | http://www.jinalgovindphotography.com/weddings

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How do I begin wedding planning?!

Welcome to the new brides that don’t know me yet! Let me first introduce myself. My name is Mary. I am a current bride getting married in September this year. I am planning the wedding pretty much alone and have learned SO much since starting to plan over a year ago. We are having a “destination” wedding in California (where I am from – we currently live in New Zealand)! I’d love to get to know you and would love to see you on my Facebook page Mary Taylor Weddings. My posts are designed to be interactive so I can actually talk to the brides that are reading my blogs. I cannot wait to read your comments! If you’re already keen to start looking at decor, gifts, outfits, and more join me in my group Mary Taylor’s Wedding Deals.

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Now, onto the MOST IMPORTANT topic (yes, I said it. This, this is the most important topic of the entirety of wedding planning)….. Where the heck do you even start?! You’ve got this gorgeous ring on your finger and you’re sitting there dreaming about the future. Maybe after a few days (or months or even years) of absorbing the fact that YOU’RE ENGAGED (woo-hoo!) you’re ready to start planning. You’re on your phone or your computer ready to start but have no idea what’s next. You’ll see (or you’ve seen) in my other blogs that I am pretty straight forward. I love lists. I love organization. So, here’s your first list.  

 These are the first things that you should do (in order) when you’re ready to start planning your wedding:

  1. Budget (check out my blog about budgeting). Research average costs of weddings in your area. Look at some potential venues and vendors briefly to get an idea of a realistic budget.
  2. Get a list of questions to ask your wedding vendors (especially for your venues because there will end up being a TON of questions you’ll want to ask them). Here’s a resource that includes questions to ask and an excel sheet (or pretty printable) to record answers.
  3. Write a very rough idea of your guest numbers (check out this blog on Who to Invite). Once you start writing down names, you’ll likely realize it’s more than you thought. I always recommend writing your lists in different columns or parts (must invites, really want invites, want but not needed/could live without) and separate them into categories (immediate family members, FH friends, FW friends, extended family, friends of both of you, parents friends, coworkers, and other).
  4. Venue (check out my blog about what to consider and some questions to ask wedding venues). Look for and book your venue. Do this before getting your heart set on a date. In my mind, date and venue should really be considered at the same time. If you’re really set on a date, be prepared to be told that date is booked for this or next year. If you’re planning far in advance, you may not have to worry about that date being booked. Here’s a blog about things to consider when choosing a date.
  5. After you’ve got a date, rough draft guest list, and your venue booked, if you haven’t already got a checklist, now is time! Do this before you get too far along in planning. Here is the checklist that I recommend: Click here.
  6. Start booking vendors (start with photographer, videographer, and then DJ. Next should be caterer, HMUA, etc.). Here’s a blog about questions to ask every one of your vendors.
  7. If you’re visual like me, start a Pinterest board! Feel free to check mine out here. I have boards such as wedding fashion, decor, bridal shower ideas, and our wedding inspiration vs. what we have actually purchased/are actually doing.

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Now you’re off to a great start! Look out for more blogs on other topics such as DIY projects, advice from real brides, money saving tips, and more!

I hope this helped you to feel confident in where to begin your wedding planning process. A few more recommendations that I have:

Join me and other brides as well as other bridal mentors and wedding vendors in Weddings, Wine & DIY. And of course, don’t forget to like my Facebook page for blog updates and more! We’d love to have you join our women’s shopping and inspiration community at Mary Taylor’s Wedding Deals on Facebook.

Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3

Happy bride-to-be with Miss to Mrs subscription box full of bridal must-haves
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My Amazon Wedding Purchases

Hi savvy brides and grooms!

I’ve already written a blog about some of our wedding AliExpress finds (if you haven’t read it, find it here) but I wanted to share some of the things we bought off of Amazon as well. I love giving brides recommendations based on real weddings (like our own)!

In the States, Amazon is HUGE. I even have an Amazon credit card and had Prime for years. Since I have moved to New Zealand, I haven’t done as much shopping on Amazon since we don’t have it here. But since our wedding is in the States, I have been able to buy things and have them shipped to my mom’s house. 

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Here’s a list of the things we have purchased so far:

Lantern: https://amzn.to/2ERijCI

Bubbles: https://amzn.to/2WDe9sr

Diesel Men’s Spray: https://amzn.to/2MuFid2

Akner powercore: https://amzn.to/2JX2pLo

White floral short dress: https://amzn.to/2F2wvsX

My silicone rings: https://amzn.to/2ENowzt

His silicone rings: https://amzn.to/2Iu9AYr

My Engagement Party dress: https://amzn.to/2JVoHND

Silk flowers (we got them in pink and white): https://amzn.to/2JWhm0m, https://amzn.to/2Xn2dIg

Candle holders: https://amzn.to/2MGyitZ

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Here’s a few things in our cart at the moment:

BM getting ready rompers: https://amzn.to/2Wc1Qic

BM hair tie & bracelet gift: https://amzn.to/2JULPvG

Floral bouquets: https://amzn.to/2WMweUK, https://amzn.to/2EQdB8y

Wood rounds: https://amzn.to/2wzzcxh

Boutonnieres: https://amzn.to/2MuIRjw

Burlap & lace: https://amzn.to/2WfQ4nn


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Here are some recommendations from other brides:

Wedding gowns: https://amzn.to/2Wi7W5E, https://amzn.to/2JTL0Dh, https://amzn.to/2XuJmLG, https://amzn.to/2MuKTQG, https://amzn.to/2EQMPwF,

Guest book ideas: https://amzn.to/2WmUvBB,

Rings: https://amzn.to/2JWEBHi,

Cake toppers: https://amzn.to/2XnFmwk, https://amzn.to/2JUfLYT,

Flowers: https://amzn.to/2XpS8dx, https://amzn.to/2MC1VfA, https://amzn.to/2WfUAlP, https://amzn.to/2WfUGtH, https://amzn.to/2WfV5fH, https://amzn.to/2WHpyXX, https://amzn.to/2JUgFV5 

Flower girl: https://amzn.to/2JTLcCv, https://amzn.to/2JS2X5j, https://amzn.to/2XofW1r, https://amzn.to/2WG5uFz, https://amzn.to/2XkmO00 

Dresses for events (bridal shower, bachelorette party, engagement party, etc): https://amzn.to/2JVgysA, https://amzn.to/2EQCSPH, https://amzn.to/2ENq8Jx, https://amzn.to/2Xo6zPn, https://amzn.to/2MC022u, https://amzn.to/2WG2UiR, https://amzn.to/2XuJJWA, https://amzn.to/2WIz4tZ, https://amzn.to/2XmYdaV, https://amzn.to/2ERkWEA, https://amzn.to/2Ws6JsQ, https://amzn.to/2JTrrLn,

Bridal Accessories: https://amzn.to/2JXAwmb, https://amzn.to/2XpHovK, https://amzn.to/2EPjT8g, https://amzn.to/2WQ8uPX

Honeymoon swimsuits: https://amzn.to/2JWFhMQ, https://amzn.to/2JWFBew

Bridesmaid gifts: https://amzn.to/2WJyTyK,

Extras: https://amzn.to/2ENokAo, https://amzn.to/2Wc84yN 

Lingerie: https://amzn.to/2WnXU2Y, https://amzn.to/2W8xz49, https://amzn.to/2Kk6jNM, https://amzn.to/2WhxmvC, https://amzn.to/2KuMy6l, https://amzn.to/2EO8KVm, https://amzn.to/2EPiK0g


I hope this helps you to find some amazing wedding items on Amazon! Did you purchase something else for your wedding and would like to share it with more brides? Comment below or head to my Facebook page to leave a comment on this shared blog! I cannot wait to see what you all purchased! Come back for even more purchases along the way.

Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3


* I cannot guarantee the quality, speed of delivery, or anything about the items that you purchase. These are simply recommendations from brides including myself. As an Amazon Associate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases

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Wedding Bar Options – Pros & Cons

You’ve picked out your venue, you know their packages, and you’ve got to select what type of bar you’re going to have. There are a few different options when it comes to having a bar at your wedding. If your wedding venue allows you to bring your own alcohol, great! This is the best way to save money on your wedding day (unless you’re just choosing to go without a bar which of course will be the cheapest option)! Below I will list out the different types of wedding bar options along with their pros and cons.

Open bars: Let’s start with the most preferred type of bar. Most couples choose this option because it’s easy. No thinking about how much your tab is going to run up, what drinks people might like, or worrying about how much people will drink. Cash bars are done in a few ways:

  • Just wine/beer
  • Full bar with liquor
  • Price per person
  • Price per bottle
  • Price per drink
  • Price per hour


– No fuss or stress that you’ll end the night with a large tab to pay (it’s predictable)

– Guests don’t need to worry about bringing money or paying for their own drinks

– It’s proper etiquette 

– There are several ways to customize it so you and your guests are happy


– The most expensive option. 

– If guests don’t drink enough to justify the expense it can be frustrating. You have to pay for the non-drinkers as well. 

– People usually get really drunk.

Cash bar (guests pay): A cash bar is like an open bar in the fact that guests can drink whatever they want but in this case, the couple doesn’t pay for anyone’s drinks.


– It’s cheap for you (except for your own drinks). You don’t have to pay a huge amount up front and have guests not drink enough to justify the cost. 

– Guests might better regulate how much they’re drinking (because they have to pay for their own drinks)


– Even your guests that aren’t drinking alcohol will most likely need to be pay for other drinks as well.

– It’s not proper etiquette

– You may have some guests that are upset by this decision

– It could effect the amount and types of gifts you receive (gifts are sometimes based on the amount you’re paying per guest)


Consumption bar (couple pays): Sometimes venues offer couples the option to just pay for what their guests drink. To your guests, it acts as an open bar because they don’t have to pay for anything and they can get whatever they want. However, this means that at the end of the night, depending on your guests, you could end up with a massive bill! If you are thinking about a consumption bar, consider offering a limited bar and putting the amount that you’re comfortable spending on the bar tab. That way, when it runs out, guests can pay for their own drinks.


– If your guests don’t drink much or you’re only having a very small wedding, you won’t end up spending too much and guests can still get what they want


– May end up with a massive bill (it’s very unpredictable)

© Sierra Amor Images | Second photographing for Blissful Moment Photography

Limited bar: A limited bar is when the couple pays for only a portion of their guests’ drinks. This could be based on a ticket system, only for a specific amount of time, or with a certain amount of money on the bar tab. Once time or money on the bar runs out, guests start paying for their own drinks. Also, ask your venue if you can have a limited bar but choose which alcohol is included. This will help make sure the amount you put on your tab will last longer.


– You still provide alcohol for part of the time and it’s not as expensive as an open bar.

– You get to customize how much you want to spend


– You most likely will have to pay for sodas/juices as well which can add up for those that aren’t drinking alcohol. 

– Even though you’re paying for some of it, it’s better etiquette to pay for an open bar.

– If you have a tab to a certain amount, it may run out quicker than you think.

© Sierra Amor Images | Second photographing for Blissful Moment Photography

BYO: BYO standings for Bring Your Own. This when your venue allows you to bring your own drinks. Although the alcohol is cheaper in this case, there many be other costs associated with bringing your own alcohol/drinks. Some venues allow you to only bring your own wine, others only beer/wine, and others allow everything. The venue will likely also require you hire someone to bartend which could be an added expense. If the venue doesn’t provide cups, ice, coolers, and other needed bar items, you may also have to purchase these separately. https://www.liquorland.co.nz/party-planning/ is a great way to see how much of each type of alcohol you should be buying!


– Cheap and you can choose exactly what you want to serve 

– You can purchase the alcohol ahead of time so the cost is spread out over time

– You can purchase the alcohol when it’s on sale or at bulk pricing


– More work involved 

– It could end up being the same or similar price because of all the extra purchases

– You have to store and transport all the alcohol to the wedding

– There may be a corkage fee per bottle

– You have to hire a bartender separately

– Less options than a full bar provided by the venue

© Sierra Amor Images | Second photographing for Blissful Moment Photography

No bar: This will probably be the least desired option by your guests but, it’s your day! If you choose to not have a bar because you cannot afford it, consider still offering your guests drinks through a cash bar or asking your venue if your guests can bring their own drinks. Whatever the reason may be, be prepared some some guests to be offended!


– No one gets drunk so you don’t have to worry about them getting sloppy 

– It’s cheap for you (and your guests)

– Everyone gets home safely without needing a taxi/Uber/Lyft


– Guests may be upset and some may not even attend

– There may be less dancing (haha)

– Could effect the type or amount of gifts


I hope this helped you to understand the pros and cons of different types of bars you can offer! Whatever you choose will end up being the right choice for you. Regardless of others’ feelings, only provide what you can afford. It’s really not worth going into debt for! If having a specific bar is important to you but you cannot afford it, consider cutting costs in other areas! For those having BYO weddings, you can also host a stock the bar engagement/bridal/bachelor/bachelorette party where guests bring different types of alcohol/drinks! 


Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3


Featured image (first image) by Sierra Amor Images | Monterey, CA Photographer


Questions to Ask Your Wedding Vendors

You’re looking for your vendors now! How exciting! But you’re sitting there saying to yourself, “I have never done this before. What should I ask? What should I look for?” Those are great questions to start with. Of course, your list of questions will depend on the vendor but here are some general questions you’ll want to ask all of them!

  1. Do you have / require insurance? Your venue may require your vendors (or even yourself) to have insurance. Always make sure that you ask this upfront so that you don’t get your heart set on someone who you cannot end up hiring.
  2. What do your services include? For example, does your florist include installation for gazebo/decorative pieces? Does your cake baker include delivery to your venue? Does your venue include linens, chairs, etc?
  3. What is your deposit and when does final payment need to be made by?
  4. If we pay in full ahead of time, can we receive a discount?
  5. Is this your full time job? How long have you been a ______? You may want to ask them this to get an idea for how experienced they are.
  6. If you haven’t already, ask for their portfolio and social media accounts to get an idea of the work that they produce. Ask yourself: is their work consistent?
  7. What happens if I need you stay an extra hour because the day has run longer than we thought? How much extra is it per hour?
  8. Are taxes included? What about gratuity? Is any amount of gratuity required?
  9. What is your backup plan if you cannot make it?
  10. What is your cancellation policy?
  11. Do you have a contract that we sign upon our deposit? This is to protect all the parties involved and is extremely important!!

For specific questions to ask certain vendors click below:

Printable and editable lists for all vendors

What to ask your venue

I hope this helped you to figure out some questions to ask your vendors. If you’re still stuck, look out for more blog posts coming soon and don’t forget to check out my new ‘questions to ask your wedding vendor’ lists!

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Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3


Wedding Day Nightmare!!

It was a few hours before my wedding and it started to pour! Like streets flooded type of pour. We were having our wedding at a large school with different halls. The room that I originally thought we would be in (what was pictured on their website for events and weddings), was not actually the room they put us in to start decorating. We had invited 85 people to attend our wedding. The room they expected us to have our wedding was a plain, small room with white walls and a low ceiling. Imagine your standard classroom I suppose. It looked like it could barely fit 25 people. Because I had planned my wedding from overseas, this was my first chance at the venue. Kids and people were running everywhere as school had just gotten out.

I went in search of the building that I had seen on the website. It had tall ceilings, exposed wood, and a few other rooms attached. There were long steps leading up to the building. When I finally found it, I went in to ask why we were put in such a small (and different) room. My mom interrupted, “Mary! Don’t even ask. They’re going to charge you more! Just stay with the room we have now.” They said they hadn’t reserved us the space we saw online but would allow us to use it for less time as we originally planned and for $300 extra dollars. I agreed to the extra charge because the other room was just too small!

As people were helping to set up, I noticed that the tables were long and rectangular – very opposite of what I had originally wanted and was told I would get (round tables). The decorations were horrible. The burlap tablecloths didn’t even cover to the edge of table and looked ridiculous being so small. My cousin was walking around sprinkling fake red and white rose petals on the tables. There were a few small round tables that could only fit two people. Nothing looked like I had planned. Then, I noticed someone helping who was not invited to the wedding. She was telling my friends how she and her friend (we will call her Daisy) were attending the wedding. I barged into the conversation saying, “No. You’re not invited. You and Daisy were never invited and you can’t come!” Suddenly I remembered I had never finished the officiant’s speech or my vows. I frantically ran to the previous room we were setting up in and started writing.

Fast forward and we are saying our goodbyes to everyone. We had a fun night dancing, drinking, and sharing stories. That’s when I remembered that we had changed our wedding date and never informed our photographers or videographers so we didn’t have a single professional image from the entire day.

Then, I woke up! Thank goodness it was truly a nightmare. Now, I am going to make sure I finish our officiant speech and vows today.

I’ve heard that tons of brides have nightmares before their wedding day. Things going wrong, other people showing up, no one showing up, your dress doesn’t fit, and so much more! Have you had any nightmares about your wedding day? If so, what happened?! Comment below or go to our Facebook page and comment there. www.Facebook.com/marytaylorweddingplanning


Signing off,

Mary Taylor <3